DALKondersteuning

Some time ago I was asked to write about my experience with the Desteni Lite and Pro Process. Which I Did!  My post  See here : 'From alcoholic to self responsible individual with the Desteni dip tools.' At that specific moment it didn't dawn on me how much I let myself be, as physical Beingness, limited by choices I made, responding at information stored within my individual determined mind extent. Which was activated by external performances. The storage includes information about my interpretation from experiences I had in relation with my unfulfilled needs, expectations and desires. Experienced memories added into my physical body and Beingness. Visible made mind resonance by using the Desteni tools. Influences formed by feelings, expectations, hope, assumptions, emotions or thoughts.  At Desteni we thoroughly research and investigate the essence of what it means to live responsibly and fully. This research is done through the participation of everyone tha...

Learn to be able to discern.  There must be balance, no relinquishment or resignation and yielding. This requires see the quickness of mind with deep inner attention. We must learn to contemplate our actions, our thoughts, our ideals and beliefs quietly without judging, without interpreting them in any particular way, so that we will be able to discern their true meaning. We must first of all know our own ideals, drives and desires, without accepting or condemning them as good or evil. As it is now, it is impossible for us to discern what is true and what is false, what is permanent and what is impermanent, for our mind is so mutilated by its self-created desires, ideals, and evasions that it fails to perceive purely, is capable of. So we must first learn to consider our hindrances and brakes that cause the suffering in a still and balanced manner. How can you distinguish between who is being sincere [...] and who is not? being Selfhonest  Selfforgiveness   I...

I realize see and understand that I assume: 'I am a failure.' 'It will never be good enough for me anymore'.  I realize see and understand that's why I assume that things are never good enough for me. I always have critique how things should go because I suppose 'it's not okay'.  For context please see my previous post.  Allowance   Sounding Allowance 'all I own'. How it's possible that what I can own, in my mind exist as  'all I own' ? Allowance  the amount of something that is permitted, especially within a set of rules, thoughts and assumptions for a specified purpose:  "my baggage allowance". Before allowance got value there was the decision of acceptance of this value.  EQAFE.com  acceptance allowance vs the decision.  Definition of querulous 1: habitually complaining 2: FRETFUL, WHINING a querulous voice Selfforgiveness I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself thinking that I am a failure. 'I forgi...

I lack my innocence Beingness because I realize, see and understand that I have surrendered myself with the forces, which I have accepted and allowed myself to exist, as the energetic experience of my mind, which I reflects at my environment.  It was my responsibility to do so.  I realize, see and understand that I developed my own personalities, such as regret, blame, sadness, annoyance, shame and guilt etc. For example the personality of guilt likes it to blame others. Then others are responsible for the pain which bothers me. For the losts I suffer from. That's why I use alcohol. And that's why I neglect to take good care of My physical body and innocence Beingness. Or I neglect, isolate myself from the people within my world and environment. It's OK that I am Aware of those personalities, reflected by the circumstances I live in, my family, the people in the supermarket and others who also suffering from the choices they make and made in the past.  The ext...

Because B did not respect or answered my wishes, how did I set my borders then? Without B examples, Then I had to walk my steps in a open space without coordinates. Co-ordinate as ordered.  Characters I wrote Without the signs, from Words or Assumptions. We got learned to presume: 'when someone prays to die its about this person wants to live'. First we Has to Do things To resist time-honored temptations. Resisting temptations, such as money, Power and sex and new addictions such as drugs, alcohol and gambling.  Once addicted always addict, was the mantra of the addiction health care. Perhaps a point of getting Power over people?  The information we received, as excepted became our mind building blocks, startingpoint of the arguing, control system, speaking about good/bad with ourselves started here.  Tantrum an uncontrolled outburst of anger and frustration, typically in a young child. "he has  temper tantrums  if he can't get his own way". Wh...

Yesterday I was in a place standing in front of the intrance of a public building where I was not sure how many people would be inside. A experience came into my mind, the accumulation of Bewilderment, a inner knowing which I experience my entire Life. An experience I truly feared and tried to avoid. For context please see my previous blog. The missing point: the startingpoint as my thoughts and assumptions underneath: 'I'm a loser, I realize, see and understand that's why I wanted to feel more confidence. Thinking and ordering myself 'why can't I feel secure instead insecure, why can't I walk around without resistance.' I realize, see and understand that I Was thinking 'I want to experience The confidence to walk into a room with many people.' This all happens in a split second.  I want to stand in Here Without being Influenced by my idea 'they observe me and Possibly can look at me, condescending, disapproving, criticizing me.'...

After some serious consideration What I experience when I feel indeterminacy, became my friction point, also 'my flagpoint', suppressed within my mind, as my desire because I am missing something, Designed As the word (see previous post) ' Helping '.  Selfforgiveness  I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself in my mind I am Assuming: 'they don't help nobody else to Achieve their goals'.  I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself that I blame them, they: (my parents) helping nobody else (me).  I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself that I my assumption 'they don't help me, became: 'It is a general law that no one helps nobody to achieve their goals.'  I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself because I assume that nobody is helping unconditional, there are always preprogrammed issues involved that is why I think - I am nobody, nothing worthy, useless. I forgive myself that I have ...