The other one, or the situation is just my performer who makes my accepted and allowed assumtions and thinking visible - The things I accepted and allowed as true or as certain to happen, without proof in my physical reality.
Thus Instead Blame myself, I say thanks that this realisation - person/situation donates me insights, opinions, assumptions, patterns, expectation or flight/fighting/freeze-responses as myself accepted and allowed.
So I realize that The only thing I really see as in my outsides are donations of myself. Thus mine inside. So I Dont blame myself any longer as memory inside observation as inequality choices which I don't accept and allow myself any longer.
So thank you...outside world showing up my inner mind sabotage.