DALKondersteuning

In my previous post I realize see and understand when I assume you should be available, I want you to do so ' Right now'. And think about what is going on in the other,   ME! My unwritten assumption which I accepted and allowed myself to exist as an agreement within my mind. Do you really interested what is going on in my mind?  An Assumption that people should be available for me when I assume, expect and think they should be.  They should be available If I ask for it. What I actually expect is them to do in here ' Right now' is to be available and listen to me. What they told me to do. I had to listen, be polite, understanding and Accessible So that I would fulfill the needs of others.  Selfforgiveness  I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself expecting:  'You should be available right now'.  I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself Assuming this Mandatory condition 'You should be available right now...

After visiting A we agree that we will chat later that day. When I contact A, A is not available. After I text A, A is Not responding. Then I text ' are you busy'. Then A is texting me back: 'I am chatting with someone else'.  As you can read in my previous post  about 'abandonment issues', I realized that my 'Trust in others can also be damaged' as soon as I assume that an agreement made is not being respected'.  As a child I made this agreement with myself that people 'parents in general' should be able being available for the well care of their children and should respect this agreement as an unwritten promise, a principle to walk in word and deed.  Selfforgiveness I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself thinking, after I read the text message from A - 'I am chatting with someone else', are you cheating on me.  I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself thinking what A promised me A is no...